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Our Three Winners – Lessons and Relections for Every Youth

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Our Three Winners – Lessons and Relections for Every Youth


‘Inna Lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un’

“…Indeed we belong to Allah , and indeed to Him we will return.”
Qur’an 2; 156

The news of death is painful.

Not the type of pain you feel when you cut yourself in the kitchen.

Rather, it is a combination of both physical and psychological pain. Yes, there’s no skin or blood visibly involved but the effect is much deeper and longer lasting.

It is never one of those dismissive ‘Ah ok, its only death again; never mind… no worries’ moments.

Death is a stranger, time and time again.

Only the balm of faith brings healing. And understanding that truly to Allah we belong and our end is ultimately to Him. We have no control or choice in the matter as scary and helpless as it feels.

Despite the pain and distress, this stranger always comes with invaluable lessons, reminders and inspiration – worth reflecting over time and time again.

Such was the effect of the news of death of three inspirational Muslim Youth, Our Three Winners.

An Inspirational Reality

First I was confused, then disturbed when my Facebook feed kept showing up with posts of #ChapelHillShooting and #MuslimLivesMatter.

Then I was shocked at the finer details of it.

Then again, I became angry at the reality of the shootings, especially with the media complicity and what it meant for the parents, siblings, other family members and friends.

I remain sad but the sadness carries along with it a lot of positivity – learning about the lives and activities of these 3 inspirational youth. This positivity allowed me to reflect and uncover many subtle signs, lessons, education and most of all inspiration from the tragic happening.

I look back at myself at 19, 21 and 23 years of age and all I can say is Alhamdulillah for the lives these three lived. Indeed, they are winners. They are models for the Ummah and a model for every youth.

They may be gone, but their legacy lives on In Sha Allah.

Lessons to Ponder

The believer is urged to reflect in many verses of the Qur’an.

When you take time out to reflect, you are giving yourself a gift – one that will present you amazing opportunities and new understanding. This will help you to refine, repair and revive your own lifestyle and habits.

Here are some lessons worth reflecting upon. I can’t stop thinking about the incident time and time again and feel the need to share my reflections as inspiration for all. Better late than never.

Make Du’a for these inspirational youth [Deah, Yusor and Razan], who left deep footprints in the sands of time.

#1. Utilise your life today, tomorrow may never come.
From a popular Prophetic narration on ‘five before five’, you should always remember that your youth is a special gift and a means of earning immense reward for your dunya and akhirah.

Reading about their lives, it is easy to note the energy, passion and commitment the three youth had. It is so glaring and infectious; it remains a source of motivation and inspiration.

Despite their short time on earth, they actively tried to utilise their youth. Read more about the Hadith on five things before five captured by Nasmira Firdous on the Islamic Online University blog.

#2. Honour your parents and uphold kinship ties.
Most parents wish to die before their own children and not the other way around but the true believer knows that life and death is in Allah’s hands. It is not in your control, what you have in your control are the relationships you build and nurture.

Whether married or not, living at home or away, you remain your parent’s child.

Honour them and invest in quality time with them.

If it’s been destined for you to leave the world before them, they will be filled with sweet memories, blessed Duas and positive recollection of time spent together.

There are many lessons to be learned from the love and strength of the bereaved families as detailed on Productive Muslim. Subhanallah… isn’t it amazing how the families feel like victors not losers?

#3. Contribute positively.
Seek what you feel passionate about and contribute positively in whatever way you can.

Go on, make your dent in the world and give it your best shot. Nothing is too little, the point is to get started.

You can provide a service such as teaching, mentoring, dawah and writing. You can collect and share donations to the needy. Do what’s most conducive for you but engage your mind, body, cash, time or connections.

Do something NOW. Get inspired and contribute to one of the winners’ project here.

#4. Be a winner.

Only Allah (swt) knows how and where you will take your last breadth. Live in such a away that you will not be caught on the wrong side of the road when death comes.

No soul perceives in what land it will die. Indeed, Allah is Knowing and Acquainted. (Qur’an 31;34)

Be a winner…

  • Make your intentions pure and positive
  • Make your speech pure and positive
  • Make your deeds pure and positive

Only winners live in such state – working hard to leave the world better through shining positive examples.

Inspiring kind words, supplications, unity, peace and countless positive emotions and remarks.

A winner does not forget others while engaging in daily affairs – from studies to work to marriage to parenting. And does not fall into helping others while neglecting oneself and loved ones.

Be a winner in this life, so the righteous will count you as a winner even in death and even the Angels will also count you among the greatest winners.

Let there be Hope

Are you worried or feeling hopeless?

Perhaps you are in your late 20s or even gone past and thinking ”any hope of becoming a winner?”

Alhamdulillah, its never too late to forge a winner’s mindset and lifestyle.

Start small.

Build a winning habit through consistency. Spread salaam; give charity; give dawah; share positive messages; use kind words, set intentions right and keep renewing them; fight your nafs, respect others, honour your parents.

Through these acts you can become a… True Winner; improving yourself and others

The effort, commitment and first step lies with you.

Don’t wait for tomorrow. Don’t make excuses. Don’t procrastinate.

Remember that the rewards and blessings of the hereafter are better and everlasting. Your goals should not be for this temporary world but extending to the next world. And it is only a matter of time before it arrives for each and every one of us – young or old.

No hiding. No escape. No rescheduling.

Take inspiration and positive lessons from these deaths. As painful and disturbing as it is; it brings inspirational lessons to all, especially the youth. Think about the fact that Allah (swt) has given you T.O.D.A.Y to read this post; so you can self improve and better your state.

Prepare yourself to be in a state where your mind, body, soul is in constant state of seeking purification, closeness and love of Allah (swt). To Him you shall return.

Organise your Priorities

Your goals and actions should be aligned towards…

Seeking Allah’s pleasure;
Seeking the best of Jannah;
Seeking to contribute meaningfully;
Seeking positive action over dreams, procrastination and excuses;
Seeking to nurture love in your heart – giving and receiving within set limits;
Seeking the opportunities in the present, over unknown future possibilities and what ‘will be’.

Take action now; experience the joy as you invest in your youth and life today, honour your parents, contribute positively in any way you can, and be a winner in every regard – nothing less.

Be a winner today so that you remain one tomorrow and onwards.

Let your name be remembered for good only. Craft you own legacy with these simple but profound lessons.


  • Utilise your Youth
  • Honour your parents and uphold kinship ties
  • Contribute meaningfully
  • Be a Winner

May Allah (swt) grant their families patience and unite them in the highest level of Jannah. May He ease their pain in this dunya and replace it with the best of gains in the afterlife.


It was narrated from Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri and Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (saw) said: “No tiredness, exhaustion, worry, grief, distress or harm befalls a believer in this world, not even a thorn that pricks him, but Allah expiates some of his sins thereby.” (Bukhari and Muslim)

photo credit: Sculpture by the Sea 02 November 2013 (Sydney NSW Australia) via photopin (license)

Inna Lillahi wa inna ilayhi Raji’un


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