5 Myths about Summer Time Debunked for Single Muslims
Summer time is here!
It is a well needed break away from studies and school for many. While work and hustle continue for others.
Whatever situation you may find yourself right now – that urge to take some time off and relax is strong. So strong, that you will rather do it now – during the summer holidays than any other time in the year.
And everyone around seems to be having F.U.N; from young married couples to the older ones with families. You are beginning to think ‘summer time‘ should really be called ‘family time‘ or ‘couple time‘.
But the harsh reality remains, you are single and its summer time.
I have great news for you!
Summer is an opportunity for you just like any other person, to get stronger, healthier, fresher; and to become more positive and purposeful in life.
And guess who’s the captain of your summer adventure? Its no one, but – Y.O.U.
It is important to become aware of the ideas and myths regarding summer time as single Muslims. So that summer time is not misunderstood as a time for watering down your eeman and shedding your haya (modesty).
Here are 5 common myths debunked for single Muslims
Myth 1: Summer is time for ‘pity party’ galore.
FACT: There is absolutely no need to wallow in pity just because you are single and its summer time.
It is not a time to become heedless, rather it is a time to relax and renew your mind, body and soul and reconnect with your Lord. Because nothing in the life of a believe is done without purpose. Your summer holiday can be purposeful.
The great struggle comes from your nafs, which suggests what your friends and every couple you know seem to be doing; just chilling and having a blast – whether positive or negative.
Try this: Host your own ‘gratitude party‘ galore. A chance to spread the positive effects of being thankful for the blessings you have with others.
Need party ideas/ themes? What about…
– A picnic;
– Pizza party;
– Talent party;
– Bring-a-dish (potluck)?
Myth 2: Summer time is all about fast fun, food and feeling good.
FACT: Personal growth and development is not always about feeling good. Some activities will make you feel uncomfortable and not-too-good many times. You will doubt yourself and your ability several times.
But, that’s the price for self growth and transformation. And that’s a wise way of utilising your free time before you become busy with school or work. All learning must not be put on hold – just because its summer time.
Try this: Attempt a new skill like a language you’ve always wanted to speak or improve on e.g Arabic. You can also try a new sport/ game e.g horse riding or swimming. Or take a self defense class – you won’t regret it in today’s social climate.
Experiment with new recipes, attend seminars, halaqas and engage in extra beneficial learning to boost your self growth.
Myth 3: An exclusive friends’ affair.
FACT: Holidays and breaks are opportunities for families to get together too. Its not all about hanging out with friends and socialising till breaking point. It is a great time to visit and catch up with loved ones; and uphold the ties of kinship while earning some blessings.
- Interview and record your grand parents or older relatives for some great family history lessons;
- Watch documentaries, play games and spend time outdoors exploring and knowing each other;
- Start a family tree project and see how far you can go into the generations before;
- Organise a family reunion/ get together.
Myth 4: Any company is good enough.
FACT: ‘Good company ONLY’ please.
Because the wrong company will distract you from your eeman goals and get you thinking about taking the wrong direction in life. Its better to be alone than to be in the wrong company.
- Get a Quran buddy to help you bring the Book close to your heart.
- Get a tahajjud or masjid buddy to encourage you with your daily prayers and extras.
- Create a group to share your knowledge, experience and skills in a beneficial way.
- Volunteer with friends in the community.
When alone, make it a productive experience.
Develop a reading habit, write and perform your own spoken poetry, write opinion pieces, sing nasheeds in your ”nasheed artist voice”, read the Quran in your favourite reciter’s voice etc.
Myth 5: Time for relationship makeovers.
FACT: The good weather, sunshine, inspiration from TV + books + social media sets some expectations; and conditions you to associate summer with love and romance. For many, its time to transition from break ups to make ups – even if its the impermissible dating.
Hold up – wait a minute.
Try this: Instead makeover your house, room or car. Whatever you own – prep it up. It could be your reading corner or praying corner. Or better yet, why not try an eeman makeover? You can,
- Take a walk after fajr,
- Journal before bed time,
- Engage in deep reflection,
- Pray qiyam (night prayers),
- Have a pamper day with rewards for yourself.
So, you are single. Alhamdulillah!
And it summer time – all the better.
Get all the good things going and become a better person – mind, body and soul – this summer.
Make the best of your single life this holiday before you get busy and preoccupied. Use it while the opportunity is still available. Consider it your special time in this special phase of life. You won’t regret it.
“Take benefit of five before five: Your youth before your old age, your health before your sickness, your wealth before your poverty, your free time before you are preoccupied, and your life before your death”
(Narrated by Ibn Abbas and reported by Al Hakim)
Ever battled with any of these myths – in the past or present? Please share below your personal tips on how best to deal with it?