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The Secret Ingredient to True Love in Islam

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The Secret Ingredient to True Love in Islam



Just four letters.

But very special.

Is it a myth or reality?

Love is said to make things different; make the world go round; help to conquer everything; too special to put into words.

Does true love in Islam even exist?

And can you feel more of it on certain days than on others?

Can you devote your time to celebrating true love?

Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah said:

”The heart is rectified by two things. One of them is that the love of Allah must take precedence over all other loves in this life, so that if this love and the love of something else presented themselves to him, the love of Allah would come first and his actions would follow this order.”

Love in Islam

>>>Allah is Al-Wadood; The Most Loving, Source of all love and Bestower of love.<<<

Love is a positive and wonderful emotion in Islam.

It is a special blessing and bounty given to us by Allah (swt) and manifested in various ways and degrees throughout our lives. It is strong, deep, just, blissful, practical and divine beyond the commercials of certain days and seasons. As such we can love other creations along with love for our Creator.

But, as Muslims, our love for Allah (swt) ~ our Sustainer and Nourisher ~ must be foremost.

Love in Islam is for all days and all times. It is also for this world and the next world. When you love someone, one of your most intense desires is to get closer to that person and gain their acceptance.

Look at the example of Prophet Ibrahim (AS). He loved Allah (swt) so much that it earned him the title of Khalil Allah or friend of Allah (Quran 4: 125).

Even when he was tried and tested so many times and in so many ways, he would respond whenever his Lord called upon him. He was ready to leave his home, put his beloved wife and child in an uninhibited place, sacrifice his son and fulfil more commands all for love.

Can you imagine the depth and sincerity of such love?

And is it OK to love others in the same manner?

The Qur’an says that those who have eeman, love Allah (swt) more than anything else.

Our love for Allah is special and unique. Our love for a fellow human (or thing) should never become more than our love for Allah (swt). So in all situations, you must remember the secret ingredient;

> Love Allah (swt) more than anyone or anything & priotise obedience to Him (swt) over love or approval of anyone.

Love of Allah (swt)

Is an obligatory aspect of faith. It must be distinct and take priority over love of worldly things and fellow beings. True love, pleasure and fulfilment comes from drawing closer to Him in all ways possible.

”Whoever possesses the following three qualities will taste the sweetness of faith: one to whom Allah and His Messenger become dearer than anything else; one who loves a person and he loves him only for Allah’s sake; and one who hates to convert to disbelief, after Allah has brought (saved) him out of it, as much as he hates to be thrown into the fire. (Bukhari and Muslim)

You can love Allah (swt) by
> Obeying Him.
> Avoiding disobeying Him.
> Submitting to Him in all matters.
> Being eager to accept His guidance and wisdom.

Love of His Messenger (saw)

”None of you will have faith until he loves me more than His father, his children and all of mankind.” (Muslim)

You can love the Messenger (saw) by
> Studying his seerah.
> Living his sunnah with excellence.
> Spreading his mission with wisdom.
> Accepting his message and mission with pleasure.

Love of the believers

The bond of faith ties together believers and as such love for other Muslims is linked to love of Allah (swt).

When you love a fellow Muslim, do it purely for the sake of Allah (swt) and your heart, soul and body will reap great benefits too.

”A man went to visit a brother of his in another village. Allah sent an angel to wait for him on the road. When the man came along, the angel asked him: Where are you headed? He said: I an going to visit a brother of mine who lives in this village. The angel asked: Have you done him any favour (for which you are now seeking repayment?) He said: No, I just love him for the sake of Allah. The angel told him: I am a messenger to you from Allah, sent to tell you that He loves you as you love your brother for His sake.” (Muslim)

You can love the believers by
> Being loyal in their presence and absence.
> Enjoining the right and forbidding the wrong.
> Maintaining ties of brother/ sisterhood over race, colour and culture.
> Being kind and generous while offering genuine advice, support and compassion.

No doubt, tawheed (belief in Oneness of Allah) is the foundation of faith.

And one the most important pillars of this foundation is love of Allah (swt). So, your faith is firm, secure and complete when you truly love Allah (swt).

”And [yet], among the people are those who take other than Allah as equals [to Him]. They love them as they [should] love Allah. But those who believe are stronger in love for Allah…”(Quran 2: 165)

Everyday love

As Muslims, we manifest love in practical and meaningful ways everyday.

It is at the core of our faith. And it a secure path to the everlasting home for all believers.

True love in Islam is safe, secure, sweet and simple.

Its secret ingredient is having love for Allah (swt) more than anyone or anything and priotising obedience to Him over love or approval of anyone.

The time is right for YOU to nurture true love in your life ~ for all seasons and for all the right reasons.

So – In what ways will you awaken or strengthen true love in your life?



  1. Saima Masood March 2, 2016

    Indeed! the true form of love is only Allah’s love, all other forms of love are secondary, great post..keep up the good work!

  2. Creative Khadija February 24, 2016

    Very well written article. Thanks for sharing!

    1. Amina Edota March 2, 2016

      Thank you for reading and commenting Creative Khadija

  3. Lubna Karim February 23, 2016

    This is wonderfully written article….

  4. Myda Tahir February 23, 2016

    JazakAllah Khair Amina for defining the word love in such a comprehensive post.

    1. Amina Edota February 23, 2016

      Wa iyyaki. Thank you for reading and for your thoughtful comment.

  5. Amina February 23, 2016

    This was a lovely post! Thanks for the reminder of the hat love matters most!

  6. Umm muhd February 23, 2016

    Indeed one should love Allah more than everything. And the most amazing thing with this type of love is that it is unending. Whoever or Whatever we love will die or finish one day and would hurt us. Like the advice of angel jibril (AS) to rasulullah (saw) to love whom he wish but they must be separated. So like sister amina said, lets make Allah your object of one true love.

    1. Amina Edota February 23, 2016

      I love that – every kind of love will ultimately become out of reach except the true love of our Lord.

  7. Zainab Dokrat February 23, 2016

    So beautifully written, true love is Allah

  8. Foz February 20, 2016

    Lovely post about love. JazakAllah khair for sharing. All other love is for the sake of Allah (swt), loving Allah (swt) is the ultimate love.

    1. Amina Edota February 22, 2016

      True ~ loving Allah (swt) is the ultimate love…

  9. Umme Hafsa February 19, 2016

    Beautiful post mashaAllah.. Building that love for Allah is really key to everything else in life.

    1. Amina Edota February 20, 2016

      Masha Allah, it is indeed.

  10. nakida February 19, 2016

    True love is to love another for the sake of Allah. This was beautiful post and it was much appreciated.

  11. Kai February 19, 2016

    Ma sha Allah, what a wonderful read. <3
    Love is never just a feeling between a female and male. It transcends everything on earth.

  12. Ruku February 18, 2016

    Truly Allah is Al Wadud, like you said. I wish people took more time to learn about how loving He is, rather than the fear aspect. Lovely post, mA

    1. Amina Edota February 18, 2016

      Allah Akbar, such a beautiful and heart melting name.

      Yes, it will improve the quality of our hearts and lives if we learned more about how loving Allah truly is. No love can ever compare.

  13. Papatia February 17, 2016

    He who has no love is hollow; an empty shell. We must have all the types of loves you cited sister Amina otherwise we’re doomed. Masha’Allah, great post! xx

  14. Rubina February 17, 2016

    Wow, what a beautiful way to define love. Very clearly written and great examples, mashaAllah!

  15. kenz February 17, 2016

    Beautifully written. Thank you.

  16. Aisha February 17, 2016

    Beautiful and worth reading 🙂

  17. saima asghar February 17, 2016

    Great read indeed. Enjoyed every bit of it as it resonates with our souls. May Allah makes us love Him and His Prophet s.a.w more than our blood relations. Ameen.

    1. Amina Edota February 18, 2016

      Amin to your beautiful dua.

  18. naila February 16, 2016

    Nice and comprehensive post.

    The only love that builds up is that of Allah . Rest of the loves develop based on that relationship.

    1. Amina Edota February 18, 2016

      You are right Naila, all love should build up and remain linked to true love of Allah (swt).

  19. Ashfa Salam February 16, 2016

    They say love hurts. Love hurts when you love someone and that person doesn’t love you enough or doesn’t accept you. But when you love for the sake of Allah, it will never hurt ’cause you love for His sake and do not expect anything in return.. and the reward for your love is from Allah .. What could be a better reward than that?

    1. Amina Edota February 18, 2016

      Masha Allah… So beautifully articulated. Jazaakillah khayr.

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