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A Simple Islamic Guide to Mentoring [SlideShare]

A Simple Islamic Guide to Mentoring [SlideShare]

Just over ten years ago, I found myself a mentor.

That first mentoring experience led to many great things in my life.

It was the beginning of a journey of discovery and possibilities but equally filled with uncertainties and fear. Yet, I learned more about myself and others than I did in Uni or through other experiences in my adult life.

I didn’t set out to get a mentor, but looking back now I realise that’s just what it was. It wasn’t something I would have typically done given my personality type but there was an itch within me that wouldn’t go away. It only got bigger and most disturbing.

I admit it wasn’t an easy move. But it was so worth it.

Once I made the first move, my mentor stayed firmly by my side – through many silly and embarrassing actions to moments worth celebrating. I can’t believe it’s been so long but today, I strive to be that kind of mentor and more with all those I supportΒ in life – whether personally or professionally.

Through mentoring, I found courage and inner strength. And a bridge to personal growth, awareness and positive self identity.

Mentoring is a bridge to positive change and growth.

Are you thinking of mentoring? Here’s your simple Islamic guide to mentoring

Mentoring may mean many things to different people depending on the situation from which it is viewed or experienced.

Basically, it is having someone (a mentor) to teach, guide, support and push you (mentee) out of your comfort zone and towards achieving your important goals.

For me, it was a role model ~ someone with the skills and knowledge I could benefit from. And who challenged me to look inwards and answer some difficult questions on life, and in doing so realise my life vision and gain self confidence.

I received advice, guidance, support and emphatic listening for my personal development as well as for business growth. This helped me beyond the inner whispers and discomfort I felt.

I present you with a slide share presentation of a guide to mentoring from the Islamic perspective.

Simple Islamic guide to mentoring and a successful mentoring engagement.

A touch of mercy

Being a youth and personal development mentor has been very rewarding and life changing for me.

Many years ago, I got myself a mentor in trying to take care of an itch. And it led to many great things – from accelerated learning; building a great network and relationships; to finding a purposeful passion and serving the Ummah.

It was an experience that brought about whole development from the inside to the outside. In addition to nurturing a beneficial relationship, building great rapport and maintaining a strong self identity.

Many opportunities have followed for positive change.

Through the years, it was only natural that I found myself in many rewarding supportive roles. My mentoring goal and mantra is that of dealing with others with mercy and kindness as believers should.

With mercy and kindness, relationships which involve support can become more blessed and blossom greatly.

Anas ibn Malik (ra) narrated that the Prophet (saw) said, “By Him in Whose hand my soul is, Allah does not bestow His mercy except on a merciful one.” They (the Companions) said, “All of us are merciful.” The Prophet replied, “Not only that each of you has mercy upon the other, but to have mercy also upon all people.”
(Abu Ya`la; authenticated by Al-Albani)

Have you ever been involved in a mentoring relationship? How did you find it? If you haven’t, are you thinking about it?

Comments

  1. Mustafe Artan says:

    Assalama Aliakum,

    Jazakallahu khayr sister Amina Edota. I have been reading mentoring articles from the Islamic perspectives recently and I found this very useful and inspiring. I am about to engage a mentoring relationship and feel very confident after going through this piece. May ALLAH reward your effort.

    Mustafe Artan

    • Amina Edota says:

      Wa alaykum salaam wa rahmatullah br. Mustaphe,

      Alhamdulillah, I’m happy you found the post beneficial. Praying Allah blesses your mentoring engagement. I look forward to reading more of your comments insha Allah.

  2. Thanks For Sharing πŸ™‚

  3. I have found myself in the advisor role many times, although not formally.

    I always do my best to encourage and spur others on to live their dreams

  4. very inspirational May Allah reward you for your effort Ameen

  5. Very inspiring article Masha’Allah πŸ™‚ May Allah reward you for your effort

  6. Really good article and very inspiring πŸ™‚ Masha’Allah πŸ™‚

  7. this is wonderful MashaAllah.

  8. Zainab Dokrat says:

    I would love to do something like this, help someone else and in that you also have help and guidance, especially working with younger more impressionable girls.

  9. Someone mentioned their masjid had a mentorship program, mashaa allah wish mine had one. would have taken advantage of it, as I think having someone who reminds you of the sunnah and quran is important in mentor ship right?

    • Amina Edota says:

      You are right Umm Asiya, its absolutely essential. And that’s where the issue of good rapport comes in.

      Personal growth for a Muslim has to be directed towards the mind, body and soul – not one without the other.

  10. Myda Tahir says:

    JazakAllah Amina,
    i am into the mentoring and inspiring book reads these days, and found them very pushing.
    But i believe that that every point of life one needs support to carry on whether Parents , hubby, Teachers , Some colleagues,
    But I dont pinpoint a single mentor.
    Whats your advice?

    Eat Healthy Stay Healthy πŸ™‚

    Myda Tahir

    • Amina Edota says:

      Wa iyyaki Myda.

      We are all different and experience life differently, not everyone needs such direct support and guide. But non judgemental good listening always helps even for our day-to-day struggles.

      If you can find that rapport, support, trust, guide, good listening and all you need in a loved one, teacher or colleague – that is great as well. It doesn’t have to be anyone special.

  11. I wouldn’t mind doing something like this….Feel at a bit of a loss sometimes since I stopped working

  12. I’ve never thought about getting a mentor but can certainly see the benefits by reading your post. πŸ™‚

  13. Amina Edota says:

    That’s lovely to hear Masha Allah. I hope you experience that same ‘charged’ feeling in a mentoring engagement soon.

  14. This is the first post I read about mentoring and it’s beautiful… Mentoring is a bridge quote made me feel so charged πŸ™‚

  15. We have similar kind of mentoring. I like to see the positive sides of my role models (because we all tend to have negatives that we are battling). they help me big time with my day to day activities and long time goals.

    • Amina Edota says:

      Masha Allah, glad you have a mentor to support you with your goals.

      And you are right – it always helps to see the positive side of others. Baarakallahu feek.

  16. My local masjid offers a mentorship program that I’ve been thinking about joining. How much time do you spend with your mentee? And do you have more than one at a given time?

    • Amina Edota says:

      Masha Allah, you should speak to them and find out the details because each program will come with its goals and specifications. You need to be sure its right for you and your needs (is it for business, leadership, personal growth, Qur’an learning etc); or at least flexible enough to be of benefit. And of course, Istikhara is important here.

      As regards time, I think its relative – depending on the objective, availability of all parties involved and environment/ medium of contact. Could be an hour weekly and in small group situations more.

      For what I do, its mostly one-on-one because of the need for privacy and confidentiality that many desire when discussing personal matters. But I’m always open to the group sessions especially for general issues because of the motivation, exchange of ideas and learning that comes from the group memebers. Hope that helps.

  17. Whoever introduced mentoring to the world did a great job. Prophet Muhammad (p.b.uh) is our best mentor and i hope i always follow his footsteps in all walks of life. Relationship between mentor n mentee is very significant n productive. Its a blessing if we find a living legend in our life who can mentor us and help us deal the difficult situations in our lives.

    • Amina Edota says:

      Well said Saima. Indeed we find in Prophet Muhammad’s life an excellent example for mentoring and living as true Muslims in every facet of life.

  18. This is a self-actualization and inspiring post. Alhamdullilah, I have by dreaming big and being myself and I didn’t intend to but usually it’s the qadr of Allah masha’Allah. Keep it up! xx

  19. I’ve been meaning to get one but never got around to it. But those that are available, I didn’t really click with.

  20. As an educator, I hope that the relationships I create with my students are those of mentor/mentee. I also know that my greatest professional success occurred with the help of a mentor.

    • Amina Edota says:

      Absolutely, educators always play multiple roles. And I’m glad you found professional success with mentoring.

  21. Sounds like you really enjoy mentoring MA. May Allah SWA reward you immensely.

  22. Wonderful and inspirational Read. Shukran for sharing.

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