03: [#MuslimFreeStyle] Let’s Talk About Social Taboos
Let’s talk about social taboos.
You know what? Sex is one of such taboos – a top one.
Ssssshhhh, don’t say I said so.
But, should it be so?
”Certainly will the believers have succeeded: They who are during their prayer humbly submissive, And they who turn away from ill speech, And they who are observant of zakah, And they who guard their private parts, Except from their wives or those their right hands possess, for indeed, they will not be blamed – But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors…” (Al-Mu’minun 23: 1-7)
Imagine the following scenarios!
- A 7 year old who thinks sex is a bad word when she hears classmates in her Islamic school taking about it. She returns home to tell her mother ‘somewhat’ shy. But what happens? Mum listens to her, wondering what to say and how to say it. And then case is closed. No further discussions follow at home regarding this topic.
- What of a tween who sends ‘selfies’ in different poses to female school mates via his mobile and calls them by sweet pet names? His parents are scandalised at discovering such messages on his phone – they think he’s too young to get into such a habit. Yet, no plans are put into place to discuss the S – word with him just yet.
- Lastly, is the case of a teen who is found with pornographic material on his device. He claims ignorance – saying someone (a senior) from his school WhatsApp group sent it to the group randomly. He is excused and life goes on.
Do you think its just about time or wayyyy past the time to talk to these young people about sex? Or better to leave things as they are – because it is a social taboo – never to be discussed openly.
Muslim youth should have easy access and enough confidence to approach adults in their lives to talk about sex.
They should be able to discuss any fears and concerns about sex and related matters. And get the right education and orientation early in life. Because such things pop up on the media and in many social circles these days.
”Tell the believing men to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts. That is purer for them. Indeed, Allah is Acquainted with what they do.” (An-Nur 24:30)
If parents, mentors and educators do not talk about sex in the light of Islam to the youth – then surely they will learn from their mates, social groups and popular culture.
They may even think of it as something BAD, weird, abnormal etc
- Is it OK to talk about s.e.x as Muslims or is it a B.I.G no-no?
- When should sex be first discussed with young ones?
- Where – home, school, madrassa?
- What should be discussed?
Its time to FreeStyle it. Lets talk. Share your views in the comments section below.